The other day I was having one of those days where you felt stuck in the house, busy with work, homework, being a mom, playing with your toddler, and pretty much going crazy in a 900 square foot apartment! The weather has been cold, the warm, then a blizzard would come and clear out and leave a beautiful muddy walkway. Mother Nature in the Midwest at her finest for sure.
I kept trying to decide if I wanted to make dinner that Saturday night or splurge on a Steak from the steak house and even let Sophie have non-organic food! Yes, that is a big deal in this house. Ridiculous at times I am sure but hey, it’s my thing so get over it haha.
So, I went for it. Curb side pick-up and I was getting a filet and got Sophie mini plain burgers. I don’t know why but I was just so excited to get that and take it home like I had accomplished something amazing other than laundry. However, I had to unload quite a bit of stuff out of the car when we got back. I had to hold Sophie, my purse, her diaper bag, a box of diapers I had bought earlier that week, and then the sack full of our delicious food, and then a free hand to grab my to-go coke.
I had everything on my shoulder or in my hand and Soph on my hip. Carrying a lot is a usual thing for me since my apartment is upstairs. We get going and walking and it happened, it really happened! I heard a slow ripping of the paper sack and the bag busted! The food not only fell on the ground but hit just right on the ground to where it popped out of the containers! OH I WANTED to just cry but I just looked at it in the dark, like oh dear me now what.
As I put the other stuff down and see what I can salvage, my daughter is screaming “oh no, oh no mommy, u tubble huh?” “Yes, Mommy in trouble now.” I put Soph down and go to start picking things up as I hear, “Yay Pi-nic!” No No No!! I am screaming! I look over and she is sitting in the grassy mud and eating!! “Mmm mommy fin-ch fies, tank ooo tank ooo!!” Before I could say anything else I just let her enjoy herself because she has no idea and thinks everything is ok and the food is fine lol..
I throw the clean, organic mommy card out the window and just say,”Ok baby lets take the picnic inside since it’s dark and clean up the food and put it in the bag ok? “Ok mommy, keen up, keen up, yay!” She gets so excited cleaning up and feeling accomplished and I was not about to let my thoughts hinder that.. even though I wanted to cry and throw all the food away and say forget it! But there is that moment where you stop and realize what joy you might be taking away from your child when you do that. She has a lifetime to learn not to eat off the ground so today will not be the day that we learn it.
We make it up stairs and I get plates out and put them on the kitchen floor and put the ripped bag and containers and food pieces on the floor and divide it all up. I couldn’t believe I was doing this but I washed my steak off in the sink and got the grass off and put her fries on her plate and said “take these green things off because it’s grass and we don’t want to eat grass ok?” “K, no gass, Yay my do it!!” I told her good job as I just shook my head lol.. I picked my own grass off and luckily the mashed potatoes stayed together and her fries were decent.
So there we set, 8:45 at night having a picnic on the kitchen floor with Chicken, Fries, Potatoes, Rolls, and Steak fresh off the ground and into our bellies. The excitement and joy on her face made me realize that I almost killed that happy feeling by getting upset and throwing it all away. That whole moment could have been gone in an instant and we both would have gone to bed sad and upset. Instead we laughed and played and ate like nothing was wrong and when she helped me cleanup she looked over and gave me a hug and said “wuvvvv oooo and wuvvvv finch fies! (with a giggle)”
Now when things don’t go perfectly I try to be cautious of my emotions and not act like something is wrong and go with the flow in front of my toddler. She is so impressionable and I know how many times joy has been taken from me because I have allowed it or someone else assisted and I just want to see that face happy. When your child is happy and joyful it just changes your whole insides to where your stomach melts and drops like the first drop from a roller coaster.
So, I guess you could say we laughed over the spilled beef and fries… a whole new meaning to our “Organic” lifestyle haha.
“How a Physician Went From Criticizing My Homemade Formula to Promoting It”
(Recipe and Picture Description Below)
After having my daughter I was determined to breastfeed no matter what. However, after having a C-section it took my milk longer to come in and her weight had dropped to where they would not let us leave the hospital until they could see her eat and gain a few ounces. Being a new mom I did NOT want to use formula but I did not think I had any other options. They brought in a small syringe along with some formula to take home and told me to give this to her and make sure she was having at least 1 ounce every 4 hours a day. I know it sounds silly but with the hormones after birth going crazy in your body you feel like a failure because you have to resort to formula.
I was very upset and I could not understand why my milk was taking so long. Finally! My milk came in and I was nursing it seemed every hour. I continued to give her a few ounces a day of the formula to try and get her weight up before her Doctor visit per that is what they had plastered in my head that I needed to do. After taking her to see the Doctor her weight was not where they thought it should and I was told that I should consider more formula and less Breast Milk. I immediately was in tears. “Why?” “I don’t understand!” I said. He told me I needed to be concerned about her weight and that she was getting enough. I left feeling hopeless like I had failed but I chose to continue breast feeding but did start to add some additional formula in with it.
Then, something was changing!! I started noticing her having tummy troubles, diarrhea, blisters on her bottom, and reflux! I took her multiple times to the Doctor over the next 2 months and he was constantly changing formula and stating it was my breast milk that I was continuing to feed her. I KNEW in my heart that was not right. I was healthy and she should be fine with just my milk, but I knew she needed something of substance while I tried to get my milk back and to help her get better. Keep in mind I had tried every brand out there and the most expensive and even a prescription and even soy milk. The Doctor wrote her up as stating she was allergic to soy and dairy and then told me to give her the prescribed liquid Zantac before feedings, use this steroid cream on her bottom for the blisters, as well as to stick with the alternative prescription formula he prescribed to try this time.
After this I desperately went to the Health Food Store and talked to one of the ladies that owned the store. I vaguely knew her from around town and from shopping there over the years and knew she had children and I was certain she knew of an alternate solution. I explained my situation and she said to try just breasting feeding and giving her a probiotic and gave me a can of natural powdered goat milk. She showed me and explained to me what all was in these formulas and the starches and fillers etc. She said I could adjust and figure out my own formula as I figure out my daughter’s digestive system so I could add additional vitamins, etc. if I felt the need. I felt like I was being forced to poison my child but being told to use all the other formulas! My mind was even thinking about all of the commercials I see and going over what the Doctors say to use; brands like Enfamil and Similac! So how can something like this work? I immediately just blocked my thoughts out and got the probiotic and milk and gave that to her for a week and went back to the Doctor.
She had no diarrhea, had normal bowel movements, no blisters on her bottom and had not spit up or had reflux at all so I never needed the Zantac. He got all arrogant and said, “see I told you she was allergic to dairy and needed Zantac and now look at her!” I looked at him and said, “I never got that formula and I never got the Zantac nor used the cream for her rash.” He looked at me puzzled trying to figure out what happened this past week. I told him that I strictly breast fed, gave her goat milk and a probiotic and used just Vaseline on her bottom. He was puzzled at the fact that I did not listen and kept asking why I did this. I literally told him because I could tell something was wrong and all she needed was Vaseline on her bottom with powder and a natural way of eating has changed her completely. He refused to believe it and said if I stick to this I need to give her a DHA and iron because she will be anemic over time and Goat Milk is not the safe choice so he wanted to see her every week because it wouldn’t be long until she got sick again. I just let it be and we visited every week and then every other week for 2 months.
He checked her blood and she was not anemic and did not need iron; she showed signs of being completely healthy. Then he wanted to know what I did as far as making the formula and he wanted to see what all was in it. I told him how I was making the formula and that I made it every night. (Below is the recipe). He found everything online and also asked me to bring in the goat milk I use, the cereal I mix with, the vitamin, and probiotic so he can see for himself what my daughter was eating and scheduled us back in 2 weeks. At this time she was 5 months old. At this visit she was completely normal again and he said to me “making this is a lot of work compared to just scooping a formula and mixing with water.” I said “Well raising a child shouldn’t be about what is always convenient should it? The convenient way was making her sick and we do not really know why but it did and you can’t deny it.” He looked and said, “ This formula and the way you make it has enough DHA, vitamins, and more nutrition than what is in the formula I was having you use. I was completely against you even trying this and using this but I researched this up and down and then advised a close patient and her baby to give it a try per their baby had sever digestive issues with formula as well and within 2 weeks the child was completely fine and no allergies or rash. This concerns me and makes me more concerned with what I even eat these days and the choices I make.” I said, “Keep the formula I use and share it because there is nothing worse as a mom than feeling like you can’t help your child eat. I knew she was not allergic and needed an alternative option to getting her nutrition.” He nodded his head and said, “a mothers intuition is best and I am glad you realized this and I am glad to know I have an alternate option as well and I hope you don’t mind that I have this and share it?” I told him to keep it and give to whomever needs it and they can always adjust to how they want it but at least they know exactly what is going into their baby’s body.
Months later my child is 19 months old and continues with the same formula and loves it. I use it to make all kinds of stuff and it works just like any milk product. She has yogurt and other dairy products and has even been introduced to non-homogenized whole milk and loves it. I still stick with the Goat Milk because of the nutritional value but it is good to know that she is not allergic to dairy and does not have food allergies like he had thought. I refused to give up when I knew something was not right.
At her last check-up her Doctor said he shared it with over 100 patients this past year and just wanted me to know that.
My Advice from what I learned is to give your body time to adjust to having a baby and your milk will come in. Sometimes there needs to be an alternative to breast milk due to illness of the mother or the baby and there is a natural way. My child is extremely smart and developed better than ever. As a Doctor they give you the scare approach as to what your child needs and when. Yes they need to at times because it is so important that your baby gets what they need, but as a mom, you know what your baby needs. This is in no way biased to any other mother’s options that they choose or have chosen. This is just my personal story and if you have a baby with digestive issues then here is an alternative option to try. I hope the below recipe helps you like it has helped me.
For any questions on how I did it, and alternative product options please email me and I will be happy to help you in any way I can! firstname.lastname@example.org
Recipe (Mix with your choice of Water)
Infant- 6mo Recipe
36 Ounces starting out then 20 Ounces (I used a protein shake container)
5 Tablespoons Goat Milk
3 full drops of vitamin
½ tsp of probiotic
5 Tablespoons Goat Milk
3 full drops of vitamin
½ tsp of probiotic
1-2 Tablespoon Cereal
5-6 Tablespoons Goat Milk
3 full drops of vitamin
½ tsp of probiotic
2-3 Tablespoon Cereal or Oatmeal