Changing that Attitude and going from having Pitty to being Grateful!

John 16:33 talks about how there will be trouble in our life but that God is with us and not to fear.

But how often to we forget to give it to God and immediately get down and sad? We are human so of course we think negative and try to fix it ourselves when in reality we just need to give it all to him.

I am the worst at this and I know that. My life is not easy and we all have hard times but we have wonderful times as well! Cast your worries onto God and change your attitude towards the situation and make it positive! Do NOT let Satan attack and make you feel down. Get happy and feel blessed!

Joyce talks about how she handled things in the past which is how I am sure we all handle things at times but I love how she is so honest and focuses on how she changed and how happiness comes from within.

There is so much I could say about this but I want you to watch because it is hilarious at how she puts a few things in there! Humor is the BEST!!

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Kindness and Goodness.. The end of this is what made me think!

This was the devotion for our Single Moms Group today and I have watched it twice. Its the end that is what got me. Joyce says:

“Stop giving your husband the job of making you happy.”

Yes, I know I am not married, but this is something my mom shared with me over the weekend as a personal experience.

I had asked her about family situations and how she felt at times when life would get rough and how her and Dad have made it through all these years and how retirement was going to play out. We talked bath and forth for a bit and I asked her about being happy and having kids and being stressed and she told me that after having me and being married for over 9 years she realized that Dad was not meant to make her happy and that nobody in life is SUPPOSED to make us happy. We choose to be happy for ourselves and put our trust in God.

Ok, so keep in mind this may sound simple but how many of us keep looking for “happiness”?

How many of use keep looking for it with any relationship whether friends, work, spouse, etc knowing that that is wrong?

Exactly! All the above for me too!!

I thought about what my mom said the other night because I am concerned about life and how it will pan out at times and when I feel down its hard to snap out of it. But hearing her say that was like.. wait I can snap out of this myself, I do NOT need to search for happiness when it lies within me and I have the book of life which is the Bible.

I never thought any more about it until I was feeling low at work and needed a devotion and ‘BAM’ Joyce got me in the end!

I can’t keep worrying about things that are out of my control and putting pressure on anyone to make me happy nor giving anyone that satisfaction because that is from God and he deserves all credit for all happiness and blessings.

Hope you enjoy this devotion as much as I did!

Praying For Loved Ones. I love Joyce’s view on this!

When I first started watching this I was like.. SO thats why my life is rough! People keep praying for me! lol! Stop it! haha jk. You have to watch the video to get that. I never realized how prayer works but I have seen it work in people but how she explains it makes so much sense. The reason I know is because the harder my mom would pray for me to more difficult my life seemed to become but then when I realized what I needed to changed and got my focus back then life made sense. Prayer is very powerful. In this she talks about how when you pray for someone it is frustrating because you love these people and for some reason it is like their behavior gets worse rather than better. It is all because of when a person gets in trouble and has to deal with punishment. Not saying God punishes per-say but he starts showing you how your actions are destructive once people pray for you and that channel of prayer is communicated. I can see why so many people give up on praying for people bt this is when God is just getting starting and working on them. You can never give up and think that it is a waste of time. You have no idea how God is working sometimes.

As an example.. Just a random show I was watching the other day… A teenage girl lost her mother tragically and all she saw was her father burying himself in his work and not shedding a tear. She looked at him and despised him and told him she was so disappointed because her mother deserved to be mourned for and he never took a day off to mourn and that her mother deserved better. Later in the show she bumps into a friend who spends most of her evenings out very late and lived across from a Park. She said she sees her dad there most nights or extremely early in the morning weeping with a book in his hand. The Girl then asked if it was a specific book and she said yes. The daughter then teared up and said that is the park where he and my mom met and their first talk when they met was over that book. She immediately left and realized her dad just did not want her to see him upset for afraid it would make it hard for the daughter to move on. Whether it was right or wrong is beside the point. The point is, she had no idea that she was completely wrong about her father and that he was going and mourning in his way. She assumed that since she did not see it herself that nothing was happening.

How many times are we like this? I am like this all the time. I am so fixated on “Seeing is Believing” when in reality we have no idea how God is really working on a person. This is why we should never give up on praying for people we love or want to love more. It is not our duty to judge and decide how and when God Works in somebody else’s life. I just know I need to tell myself this way more often and not give up and to have more faith in the prayers not only for others but the ones for myself as well.

Knowing Your Value

How often do you let others determine your Value?

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Do you worry about what other people think? Do you get upset when untrue things are said about you? Do you pretend to be someone you are not at times to impress others or to make others not see the “real” you? I am sure we could answer Yes to atleast one if not all of those questions.

But Why? Why do we do this to ourselves? We allow society to judge us to where we take into account what they think of us when their opinion does not matter, only God’s opinion matters. I say this because I am truly guilty of this myself. I don’t want others to know me because I feel ashamed for my past that includes lots of struggles. I get embarrassed and avoid people just so I don’t have to deal with confrontation at times because of the fear of rejection and judgment.

My devotion this evening talks about how we are not to worry about what anyone else thinks other than God. I know this and have always known this but I struggle to accept it. I am in constant turmoil of hurting because of being labeled. Yes I am divorced, yes I have had bad relationships, yes I have made mistakes, and YES I am a single mother. Those labels make me feel not good enough and made me separate from God because of my own shame and guilt that I created myself by letting other people and Satan control my thoughts. Whatever you choose to believe is who you will be.

So the way you think of yourself at this moment… Is this someone you want to continue being? Is there someone who is making you feel this way? Then why allow it? I am asking myself that question as well and at times I still do depending on my state of mind and how vulnerable I am at that moment because I am human after all.

The thing I need to tell myself and what I challenge you to do as well is only speak positive of yourself. “ I AM a single mother and I am AMAZING at it!” “I did go through a break-up or divorce AND I am stronger because of it!” “I WILL remove poison out of MY Life so that  can lift myself up and move forward successfully and happy and not miserable!”

Our mistakes are valuable when we learn from them. They teach us and they teach others and create us to be the person we are today.  “If we never make mistakes then we are probably not making many decisions.” (Joyce Meyer).

If someone offers you a 50.00 bill, is it worth taking? Yes it is because it is money and it has value and material items can be bought with that. What if someone takes it back and crinkles it up and then gives it back to you? Would you take it still? Yes, because it is still 50.00 and will buy the same things as it did earlier. What if that same 50.00 bill was crinkled up and had coffee spilled on it and then tried to be rinsed off and dried and it looked worn, would it still be worth taking? Of course! The value of that 50.00 has not changed!

So the question is: Why is that 50.00 still worth the same value no matter what but when we try and value ourselves we discount ourselves based on our mistakes rather than rise above it and realize that our worth is the same now as it was before?

This is what I am trying to answer myself. I need to know my worth no matter what mistake or failure I have had or will have. In God’s eyes we are the same and worth everything in his eyes and we do not need to let anyone else tell us otherwise. Remove the inner demons that fill your head full of that and remove the poison in society that makes you feel that way. Don’t retaliate and make them feel without value either, but rise above it and know that only God matters and you are worth it.

“Fear not, therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows” Matthew 10:31

A Lost Christian

When I accepted the Lord into my life I was young but very ready. I loved him and knew he loved me and I was raised with a strong knowledge of who he was and knew I would never steer away from him. Little did I know that there is this little thing called “life” that happens and comes between us and God if we allow it. I went through some hard times and even though I never blamed God directly and still continued to pray, I neglected our relationship for years. I just never knew how hard it would get later on in life to choose him over issues in life and even myself. I have spent many nights crying and confused over the past 10 years. Over the past 6 years I have spent it mostly praying to just survive. This is where I refer to myself as a “Lost Christian”.

Here I am a saved soul and supposed to be witnessing to others and here I am lost out in the world and can’t seem to find my way back. How did I get this way? Had it really been that long since I spent night after night close with God? The answer is yes. Even though I knew the answer was God and that he would save me and help me I chose to follow life and its struggles rather than let God lead my life. I married the wrong person, suffered health issues terribly, suffered a miscarriage, lost myself in trying to find other relationships, suffered break-ups, endured heartaches, suffered severe depression that took me down suicidal thoughts many times, and looked for direction in every other way except through the one I knew could help me. Even though I prayed and cried out to him many times I felt I could not be close to him or that I could not choose to give it to him because of my mistakes. I was embarrassed that I had drifted away from him and chose to follow everyone and everything else other than him. I covered myself in self-pity and doubt and read self-help books faster than they were being brought to the shelf. Did I learn a lot? Oh my YES! But what does it mean? ABSOLUTELY nothing without God.

I had all the knowledge but there was this one thing I was not doing. I was not giving my life to him to drive and control. I was even in a therapy session with a Christian counselor who said I should give it to God because he needed me to have that relationship with him just like I needed him to have it with me. I looked at her and said “ I can’t, I’m not ready to give him the control.” Why did I say that? Because I was raised with that strong Christian background to know that when you give God control you have to listen and let him have the control and have that personal relationship with him or he would get your attention one way or the other and I knew my struggles could get worse if I was not ready to listen. I was just not ready to let go, I was that fearful of what would happen. It was all Satan and his mind games. I was lost and needed to find my way back and I had to be ready just like anyone has to be ready for anything. He wants your true heart and mind focused on him and not just part of it. There were many nights I would wake up in the middle of the night and it would be pitch dark in the room and I would just think…that is how I feel, Lost and I don’t know what to do or how to find my way.

Now, I have given it all to God and have our personal relationship back and it takes work. I get afraid that I am not doing enough or listening enough. Then I realize that he loves me and approves. I have to stop letting Satan control these thoughts. Do I look back and wish I would have done it sooner? At times, but I wasn’t ready and when I tried I failed because my mind and heart were running separate directions. There were a lot of lessons, hard lessons that I needed to learn and share about before I took the calling of giving him the complete control. God always has a plan and that is something we all need to remember.

I believe all Christians have their point and times of feeling lost, but we have to give it all to him. Letting him take over and speak to you and control your life is better than anything we could do and it leads to happiness and that is priceless. I feel comfort every night talking to him and knowing that he knows I am here and listening. There is a point and time when you realize and mature to an understanding that you need guidance and seek it everywhere but there is only one person who is guiding my life now and that is God. Each new day I have learned more about my TRUE self and my TRUE worth and realizing he is the only one I need to please. The approval addiction we carry out through life and wanting everything and everyone to accept us for what we aren’t and what we want to be leads to nothing but disaster in the long run. I think back to the times of coming home and dreading living another day. How could I be so lost and think I was not worth living another day!? Nobody deserves those thoughts, but life is dangerous and sucks you in and society takes control and tries to change who we are. It is up to us to decide when we have had enough to give it to God and stop being lost. So have you had enough? Are you ready to give it to God and let him show you true happiness?