How often do you let others determine your Value?
Do you worry about what other people think? Do you get upset when untrue things are said about you? Do you pretend to be someone you are not at times to impress others or to make others not see the “real” you? I am sure we could answer Yes to atleast one if not all of those questions.
But Why? Why do we do this to ourselves? We allow society to judge us to where we take into account what they think of us when their opinion does not matter, only God’s opinion matters. I say this because I am truly guilty of this myself. I don’t want others to know me because I feel ashamed for my past that includes lots of struggles. I get embarrassed and avoid people just so I don’t have to deal with confrontation at times because of the fear of rejection and judgment.
My devotion this evening talks about how we are not to worry about what anyone else thinks other than God. I know this and have always known this but I struggle to accept it. I am in constant turmoil of hurting because of being labeled. Yes I am divorced, yes I have had bad relationships, yes I have made mistakes, and YES I am a single mother. Those labels make me feel not good enough and made me separate from God because of my own shame and guilt that I created myself by letting other people and Satan control my thoughts. Whatever you choose to believe is who you will be.
So the way you think of yourself at this moment… Is this someone you want to continue being? Is there someone who is making you feel this way? Then why allow it? I am asking myself that question as well and at times I still do depending on my state of mind and how vulnerable I am at that moment because I am human after all.
The thing I need to tell myself and what I challenge you to do as well is only speak positive of yourself. “ I AM a single mother and I am AMAZING at it!” “I did go through a break-up or divorce AND I am stronger because of it!” “I WILL remove poison out of MY Life so that can lift myself up and move forward successfully and happy and not miserable!”
Our mistakes are valuable when we learn from them. They teach us and they teach others and create us to be the person we are today. “If we never make mistakes then we are probably not making many decisions.” (Joyce Meyer).
If someone offers you a 50.00 bill, is it worth taking? Yes it is because it is money and it has value and material items can be bought with that. What if someone takes it back and crinkles it up and then gives it back to you? Would you take it still? Yes, because it is still 50.00 and will buy the same things as it did earlier. What if that same 50.00 bill was crinkled up and had coffee spilled on it and then tried to be rinsed off and dried and it looked worn, would it still be worth taking? Of course! The value of that 50.00 has not changed!
So the question is: Why is that 50.00 still worth the same value no matter what but when we try and value ourselves we discount ourselves based on our mistakes rather than rise above it and realize that our worth is the same now as it was before?
This is what I am trying to answer myself. I need to know my worth no matter what mistake or failure I have had or will have. In God’s eyes we are the same and worth everything in his eyes and we do not need to let anyone else tell us otherwise. Remove the inner demons that fill your head full of that and remove the poison in society that makes you feel that way. Don’t retaliate and make them feel without value either, but rise above it and know that only God matters and you are worth it.
“Fear not, therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows” Matthew 10:31